My California King

Since I still cannot get California King Bed out of my head, I’d like to focus on Rihanna’s “so near yet so far” troubles with her California King Bed King for today’s entry. Again, a frustrating situation we may have encountered a lot of times. What have you done during such testing times, my dear reader? What will you do?

I think the first thing we have to realize is that if there exists the right distance for everyone and everything, then there exists a right time for everything and everyone as well. Thus, the right time may just not have come. Certainly very frustrating if you believe that the right time should have come sooner or you’ve been waiting for so long but if the time ain’t right, it ain’t right. Thus, the best thing really is for one to become patient and understanding especially during the most tumultuous of times.

For your heart on me

However, a grimmer angle may be that the right time has already passed and the right distance has already been established. Thus, the only supposedly wrong thing that needs to be made right is your perception of the appropriate relationship you’d have with the person of concern. As a result, waiting may not be the most advisable strategy but accepting the reality of such distance and consequently, moving on. It will take a lot of effort. It’s sure to hurt. However, the pain you’ll encounter will definitely be less than when you’ve waited for so long still to only end up with nothing.

Can we conclude then that being trapped such a frustrating situation often leads to time wasted and a broken heart? Not necessarily.

Once faced with such grim situation, it helps to focus on the happier and brighter side of your relationship. Focus on the things which have made him/her near rather than those which made him/her otherwise. Just like what I said in this entry from last November, we have no control over people leaving and staying. Thus, let us delight in the experiences we shared with them and regard them as blessings.

Though they may have hurt us in the past (and some will do in the future), we still underwent growth and matured because of our experiences with them. And these experiences are blessings for we won’t be the people we are now if it weren’t for them and the glee/sorrow they caused.

Here’s to you my California King.