One incident does not define a person but significant impressions do last.
Probably one of the reasons why it's so difficult for me trust or just even be close who have made an initial negative impression on me is the fact that I hardly get over it. I often dwell on these impressions that these people seldom stand a chance of having my trust. Couple that with me being so stubborn and we have the perfect person to not befriend via making bad impressions.
Thus, for me, a simple mistake could define a whole person. I know it seems wrong but I do have a hard time separating the whole from its parts. A whole isn't defined by a single part. But a part is part of a whole and a whole cannot be whole without all of its parts. Thus, all parts are vital to the wholeness of the whole. Thus, for me, a person's action can have leave a significant mark on my perception.
In Layman's terms, I need to practice separating a person from an action he or she has done in the past. People can change and if I see that he or she has changed, then I shouldn't dwell on that past rift between us. I should not see the action past. I need to see the person present.
In its simplest form, I need to unlearn dwelling on a single, most of the time negligible mistake and learn how to open myself up to every person who seems interested to be a part of my life. Hindi lahat ng tao interesadong sirain ang buhay mo. Ang espesyal mo naman, Tan! Haha
Forgive and forget as they say.
Probably one of the reasons why it's so difficult for me trust or just even be close who have made an initial negative impression on me is the fact that I hardly get over it. I often dwell on these impressions that these people seldom stand a chance of having my trust. Couple that with me being so stubborn and we have the perfect person to not befriend via making bad impressions.
Thus, for me, a simple mistake could define a whole person. I know it seems wrong but I do have a hard time separating the whole from its parts. A whole isn't defined by a single part. But a part is part of a whole and a whole cannot be whole without all of its parts. Thus, all parts are vital to the wholeness of the whole. Thus, for me, a person's action can have leave a significant mark on my perception.
In Layman's terms, I need to practice separating a person from an action he or she has done in the past. People can change and if I see that he or she has changed, then I shouldn't dwell on that past rift between us. I should not see the action past. I need to see the person present.
In its simplest form, I need to unlearn dwelling on a single, most of the time negligible mistake and learn how to open myself up to every person who seems interested to be a part of my life. Hindi lahat ng tao interesadong sirain ang buhay mo. Ang espesyal mo naman, Tan! Haha
Forgive and forget as they say.
